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Divine Message: Unconditional Love and Non-judgment? But what about…?

If you have been following me, you are aware that Jesus called me to serve with him as part of a spiritual team. FYI, he is eager to co-partner with anyone who says “Use me.” Jesus is now my Spiritual Mentor/Guide and I’m blessed to receive Divine messages that are meant for everyone in order to help us all with our daily lives.

The following is one of my favorite messages I received when asking him how we can even consider loving our enemies!


IN SEVERAL MEDITATIONS, I received visions about the interconnecting web, stressing the importance for us to understand that we are all connected to everything else.

Then one time Jesus said what I thought is surely impossible.

“The greatest action you can send along this web is unconditional love and non-judgment.”

What? Unconditional love? Non-judgment? I didn’t understand how to do that, and I told him so. (Never be afraid to question; that merely means you don’t yet understand.) I admitted that I really didn’t even know what unconditional love and non-judgment meant. I mean, it would be easy, afterward, in spirit form, but as a human being living with other humans who don’t think alike or have the same value systems, I confessed I’m just not that good.

During the meditation, I continued to express my dilemma to Jesus:

“As a human being living on this earth, how can I express unconditional love and non-judgment to everyone everywhere all the time? That’s just not realistic,” I argued.

I sought to prove my assertion with opinions of how such a task is unattainable, getting more agitated and feeling more inadequate with each example:

“How can I love unconditionally people who are mean and hateful? When I see people slaughtering others because they disagree, perpetrators who claim they will not stop until we all believe as they do, I’m hurt. I’m angered. I don’t want to love those who seek our destruction. I’ll never be that perfect. Or people who kidnap children and abuse them, those who enjoy torturing people and animals, and—and politics!” I mentally shouted. “How can I love people who—”

“Start, with yourself” his voice whispered into my tirade,

I gasped. “Love myself? Without judgment?” Is that even possible?

I mulled about what he said. I thought of how many mistakes I had made and continue to make in life, and how I had unwittingly hurt people’s feelings, and that I was so far from perfect. Could I really love myself unconditionally, without judgment? To be honest, I wasn’t sure I could, but after thinking about what he said, I finally decided that with concentration and determination and some self-forgiveness, I could learn to love myself unconditionally and without judgment. That when I procrastinate, or unintentionally hurt someone, or let someone down, or don’t listen to the Divine as I should, I could love myself anyway.

Then immediately the vision in the meditation shifted.

I was in a dark void like in space, and I saw a sheer red silk fabric rippling in a growing and spreading circle away from my waist area and into the blackness—silk, like love, fragile, and yet, like love, surpassing the tensile strength of steel. As it spread, the fabric of love merged with other red silks rippling out from other beings—I knew they were people, but they appeared as sources, individual sources of love, their red silk fabrics rippling outward, melding, becoming one, then there were so many sources, unifying, filling in the void until the sea of love almost covered as far as I could see, shimmering with light, spreading further, reaching into deepest space . . . .

“We are all one,” he said. “If you first love yourself, that love changes the vibration of the interconnecting web from where you are and ripples outward into the universe. Love yourself, unconditionally. Be compassion. Then you can love your neighbor—as you love yourself. And in so doing, you change the world.”

Meaning: The meaning is clear. First, love yourself. The trick is in actually taking the time and the determination to follow through, and yet I’m sure you understand that it is vital to your happiness. Whatever you are feeling about yourself and others is all swirling around inside of you. What do you want swirling around inside of you? Love? Or hate? God-confidence? Or insecurities? Faith? Or fear? The answers seem obvious, but it is in convincing yourself of those qualities that can be the challenge.

To love unconditionally means to love anyway. That means you don’t set conditions on whether or not you love yourself and others. You embody the same kind of unconditional love you first receive from the Divine.

Again, that is not the same as condoning. Condoning behavior that is ‘not loving’ contributes to the problem. Condoning is a form of enabling. Loving yourself and others means saying ‘no!’ when behavior is damaging, unloving, or hateful. The challenge is to do so without judgment, as you are loved.

That is when you follow Jesus’ teachings and start with yourself, always asking for Divine help to accomplish what is impossible on your own. All is possible with God.

Action Item:

Your thoughts, words and actions reflect how you feel about yourself. If you don’t love yourself unconditionally and without judgment, I suggest you make out two lists:

  1. What do you love about yourself, and why. How does that make you feel?
  2. What it is about yourself that you don’t love, and why? Then write suggestions of how you might change those negatives into positives. Any time you think of another reason, add it to the list, with an action to take to shift it from the negative to the positive.

In working on your blockages, always ask for Divine help, knowing, without doubt, you will receive that help. This exercise will change you and your life and how others and the world respond to you. Do not allow fear or guilt to talk you out of completing this mission. Have faith and trust.

Quote:

“Love yourself, unconditionally. Be compassion. Then you can love your neighbor—as you love yourself.” ~ Jesus


Excerpt from Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life. p. 135-139. Cathey, Carolyne. 2015 

 


 

Dare to Live Your Truth

Quote about Daring to Live Your Truth, from Jesus in “Divine Messages from Jesus” book by Carolyne Cathey

“Truth is true always. I love truth. I share truth. There is nothing else to share. Love, of course, but love is truth. Love is who we all are—love’s expression. So, be love. Be love at all times. And do not worry about what others think of you. Some will criticize, but others will grasp the truth to their bosom like a lifeline.

“You will not please all. Pleasing all is not even a concern or a thought. You present the truth as provided by The Holy Spirit, Jesus, and the Creator. That’s all you have to do.

“Others will respond according to their perceived view—illusion or truth—but never water down or soft play the truth because someone might be offended. That is the greatest offense, going for popularity instead of truth. How do others go beyond their self-defining barriers if you don’t stretch their minds to a greater expansion? If you water down the truth to be less offensive, then you are part of the illusion, you are cheating the listener, contributing the opposite of what is intended. Only speak the truth, but without concern for the other’s reaction. Their reaction is their choice. Your choice is truth. That is all. Truth.”

~ Jesus, from “Divine Messages from Jesus for a magnificent life” by Carolyne Cathey

Celebrating the Joy of the Beatitudes

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Audio Recording: Joy of the Beatitudes, right sidebar on Home Page>>>>>>>

“TRUTH isn’t about the messenger, it’s about the message. I didn’t create the Truth that I willingly gave my physical life to share with the world. I merely illuminated what was always and is forever true— the eternal truth for everyone—because if what I embodied and lived was for only one person, what was the point? My life and messages serve as examples of what everyone can be—what you can be, and are. It doesn’t matter who gets the credit because only one truly receives the credit—the Originator, the Creator, the Infinite, God.” ~ Jesus, “Divine Messages from Jesus”

The Beatitudes, Gospel of Matthew, Chapter 5, vs 3-12, the beginning of the Sermon on the Mount

The Beatitudes, or blessings, or the be-attitudes, are the core of the core teachings Jesus came here to share. Power fills these declarations of joy.

The phrase “blessed are,” when the original Greek word is translated accurately, means “Oh, the godlike joy of…” The reason that is important is they are celebrations of what exists right now, at this moment. They are exultant shouts of joy for the Divine blessings that nothing in this physical world can ever take away from us.

Please listen to the audio recording shown on the right sidebar (Joy of the Beatitudes) , or read in the 2018-09-16 JOY OF THE BEATITUDES, for how the original meaning of the words Jesus used inspires us to celebrate the joy when we open our hearts and minds to the Eternal Truth. Please listen carefully, because these sayings might instill an inner shift within you, changing your life in amazing ways.

I give much credit to William Barclay’s “The Gospel of Matthew, Vol. 1” from which I gathered the original meanings of Jesus words in Greek and Aramaic, and also copied some of the wording he used so beautifully. I love studying the Barclay series for their in-depth history and definitions and give thanks to Barclay for giving his life so that we may better understand these incredible teachings.

Enjoy.

PDF 2018-09-16 JOY OF THE BEATITUDES

The Miracle of Being

“The Miracle of Being” audio and PDF is a talk I presented to the Center for Spiritual Living Ukiah (CA) on 9/9/2018.  (See the right sidebar for the audio player on “The Miracle of Being”)

 A quote from the talk:

 “Your being here, right here, at this moment, is a miracle. This “You are Here” moment is an adventure. This moment is your opportunity out of the immensity of infinity to co-create your life in a temporary setting as a human being in this specific place out of the entirety of the universe. Make it the best life you choose to make it. Accept the adventure for what it is. Take risks. Live in joy. Be bold. Live. Laugh. Love. Enjoy. Care. Be. Be who you are. Love.”  Jesus, “Divine Messages from Jesus”

You are invited to listen to this inspirational talk on our making our temporary physical lives the highest and best possible while on this planet. May the talk inspire you as well.

The PDF version of 18-9-9 UKIAH The Miracle of Being

“Listening Leads to Miracles” ~ Carolyne Cathey

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Mendocino Coast, California

I’m sharing an amazing story with you of how my husband and I were stunned by the Divine when, during what I thought was a fun game-type experiment, a message came through that changed the direction of our lives. The incredible inner journey from disbelief, to fear, to not only acceptance but excitement, and then, to follow-through, might be an inspiration for you to finally follow the urgings of your own heart. You really do have heart urgings, seeds planted there by God for you to nurture and develop for the magnificence you are meant to experience while in the physical.  Do you listen to them? I urge you to listen to the audio link on the right sidebar and perhaps you’ll find the courage to follow your own dreams.

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Sedona, Arizona

The audio link on the right sidebar is from a talk I gave at our Mendocino Center for Spiritual Living In Fort Bragg, CA that I believe you will enjoy hearing.

Audio: “Listening Leads to Miracles”  right sidebar when you visit the site.

In case you prefer a written format:

PDF Version: 2018-08-05 Listening Leads to Miracles

I hope this true story inspires you.

Love and God bless you!

Healing Guilt, Shame and Regret

Guilt-image-for-web-blogHave you, at least once in your life, felt guilt, shame and/or regret?

Congratulations! You share a commonality with anyone who has ever experienced, or will experience, life in the physical.

The following is a quote from the “Divine Messages from Jesus” book, Chapter 11, by Carolyne Cathey.

“You mistakenly believe that outside forces control you, when in reality it’s the forces inside of you that affect you. I am inside of you. God is inside of you. There is no greater power. This power gives you freedom from bondage to whatever you believe is injustice. But first you must forgive others, and yourself, because forgiveness breaks the chains of domination, releasing the inner power, releasing you, freeing you, transferring the power to where it rightfully belongs—with you.” ~ Jesus, Divine Message

The three negative emotions – Guilt, shame and regret – are important to recognize – and to feel – and yet are wounding when not faced, acknowledged and released, and this is most important – when you don’t forgive yourself.  Self-forgiveness. That means unconditional love of yourself – as you are loved by your Creator, without judgment, and with compassion. That is how you are loved by your Source, the example of how you are to love others – and yourself. And yet, this is often the most difficult to accomplish. So how do we do it?

This post addresses five segments:

  1. GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION TO FEEL THOSE EMOTIONS.
  2. WHY SELF FORGIVENESS IS IMPORTANT
  3. WHY IS SELF FORGIVENESS SO CHALLENGING? What holds us back?
  4. THE SECRET TO LETTING GO
  5. AND THE MOST SURPRISING: GRATITUDE

1.   PERMISSION TO FEEL

This is significant, it’s okay to feel guilt, shame and regret. You have my permission. In fact, you can’t live life in the physical without experiencing them. They reveal that you care. But what is imperative to a healed life is not to get mired in them. Don’t be ashamed of your emotions. Feel them! But even when the pain wrenches so deeply within you that you doubt you’ll ever be free of it, there is still something for which to be grateful, and that is –gratitude that you CAN feel.

Some people are challenged with a certain type of personality trait in that they don’t feel any emotion. Can you imagine not feeling love, or even remorse and guilt? I am not a psychological expert, but my belief is that these people have hardened their hearts, encasing them in an invisible protective barrier to keep from feeling long-ago early-childhood hurts from people they trusted, and have vowed never to allow anyone to hurt them again. These are people who seem incapable of feeling love, joy and compassion. There are wounded souls who have either been hurt by those who don’t feel emotions, or those who truly don’t feel. The emotionless ones ask really tough questions, like…

What does love feel like? What does regret feel like? What is sadness? How can I feel something when I don’t know how it feels?

I promise you, you don’t want that for you. If that happens to be one of your personality challenges, you are encouraged to work with someone who can help you connect with a better, more meaningful life-path – a feeling path. That takes courage, by the way. There is a lot of fear associated with both sides of the issue. Change is possible, though, not matter what you here. But first, you must choose to change.

What I’m saying is that if you feel, guilt, shame and regret, you are blessed. Emotions are there for you to experience. If you don’t experience them, you can’t relate to others who do feel them. But as I stated before, the trick is not to get stuck there and allow it to negatively impact your life. However, you can’t move forward if you don’t acknowledge them, which is the first challenge. Recognizing the issue is there.

2.   WHY IS SELF-FORGIVENESS IMPORTANT?

For one, you aren’t the only one affected by your difficulty in not forgiving yourself. You, yes, but the ones around you are also affected, innocents, like children, family, friends, your job, projects, and the planet.

Think of some of your life choices you made when you were or are mired in guilt, in shame, in regret. My guess is that your choices made from that hurting place weren’t the most positive ones for your life. Most are fear-based. Our negative feelings about ourselves shift our behavior, our thoughts, our actions, our choices, our inner battle between self-love and self-disgust, not even considering what kind of example we are setting for ourselves and others. It affects everything!

Sometimes we withdraw into our own protective shell, vowing we will never allow anyone to hurt us again. Isn’t that what we do when we feel guilt and shame? We withdraw, perhaps pretend to the world we are not upset – That kind of reaction doesn’t heal. It doesn’t free you.

The following is a compilation quote about forgiveness from Chapter 11 of the Divine Messages from Jesus Book on why this step to healing is crucial: Reasons why Self-forgiveness matters.

 “In truth, you can’t heal until you forgive. Forgiveness expands you, deepens you, and allows the inner light to shine more brightly from within you because you’ve removed limitations hindering you from expressing and living the fullness of your being. Forgiveness opens you more fully into who you really are—Oneness within Spirit. One within God.” Jesus, Divine Message

Sounds good right? Sounds easy? Maybe not so much. Then why is it so difficult?

3.   WHAT ARE THE HINDRANCES TO FREEING OURSELVES FROM GUILT, SHAME AND REGRET?

If that quote is true, and it is, then why is forgiveness, and especially self-forgiveness so problematic?

Which of these might fit in with your thinking?

  • You might believe you don’t deserve to release it, that for your punishment you should suffer the agony for the rest of your life.
  • You might be angry with God or have turned your back on God.
  • There might be instances or injustices in your life where forgiveness seems impossible—anything from a lost child, murder, rape, sexual or physical abuse, debilitating illness, unfairness in your career, betrayal, cheating spouse, bullying at school or at home . . . and the list continues. There are many past or current issues where you might think you cannot ever forgive that person, or circumstance, or yourself—or God.
  • Identity. The decision to forgive is sometimes frightening because you’ve identified with that injustice as part of who you are, and letting go can feel somewhat like being a tetherless balloon blown away in search of a new, unknown identity.
  • You can even feel guilt if you were the one attacked or betrayed, because the ‘what ifs’ still haunt. What if I had yelled louder, hadn’t gone down that street, told my parents/his wife/the police, thought before I spoke, fought harder against temptation, loved myself more, trusted more in God, showed love instead of anger, what if what if what if?

Can you relate to any of those? How have those events How has the event shaped you and your life? Your joy? Your choices? Has that incident influenced the decisions you made that resulted in where you are right now?

If your unforgiveness negatively shaped your past choices, and maybe even your current choices, ask yourself if you are tired of the shackles and are ready to move toward freedom and power.

**NOTE: EVEN THOUGH THE PAST IS PART OF THE WHOLE, EACH BREATH IS A NEW BIRTH, A NEW BEGINNING. YOUR LIFE STARTS ANEW RIGHT THIS MOMENT.**

What do you choose for you? Ongoing self-flagellation, or freedom? How long do you continue to enslave yourself to your guilt? The rest of your life? Really?? Isn’t it time to release what no longer serves you? But how? How do you get unstuck?

4.   THE SECRET TO LETTING GO – LOVING YOUR PAST

From “Divine Messages from Jesus”

Jesus said,

 “Listen carefully. There is a secret to letting go of the regrets and it will sound the opposite of what you expect. Your supposed failure is because what you’ve been attempting is from the mind, not the heart. Remember how I’ve said that love is all that matters? What people often don’t realize, is that statement is true even of the past. What most do when trying to heal the past is try to forget it, to block it out, which is mental, when what is most healing is to work from the heart and embrace the past‑—to love it, love everything about you— including your past. Including your mistakes.

“Start this moment with healing and letting go of the past as you remember it and is no longer serving you. Without forgiveness, your past is an anchor chaining you from taking flight into all that is your full potential.

“As you remember it’ means that many, when they look at their past, mainly see and feel their regrets, guilt, anger, and even self-loathing for what they feel they should have done better—all of the should haves and why didn’t I’s. Sometimes you see yourselves as victims mired in pain and anger that you have difficulty releasing. Believing you are a victim is disempowering and conflicting—guilt that you didn’t somehow prevent it from happening, and yet continually giving someone else power over your life because you refuse to release it.

“What you don’t see is the glory in your past. You forget that you did what you believed was the right choice at the time, and there is glory in that. Those experiences are part of learning and growth.

“If you never made mistakes that would be the greatest mistake of all because, for one, that isn’t possible when in the physical, and for two, you wouldn’t have been taking the risks necessary for growth and development—you would have learned judgment and arrogance instead of understanding and compassion.”

Then Jesus reveals about the gift inside the pain.

“Mostly what no one recognizes is the gift inside even the sad and angry and painful moments. There is always a gift. Always, even though you might not recognize it for the blessing it is. The key to releasing the pain is to acknowledge those gifts, those treasures, despite the awfulness of the memories, so that you can truly love yourself for the wonderful being you are.”

Then he adds the challenge:

“This moment is the perfect time for you to dig out those past moments and send love to all of the negative memories and regrets and guilt. Discover the pearls within that are formed from the friction. Those pearls are yours to claim. Love those moments and accept them for what they are—life’s lessons—and love them as part of the treasure of who you are right now.

“Love and congratulate yourself for daring to live. Love is compassionate, so be compassionate. Love heals. And remember, you are not in this alone. Go inward and ask for help in the healing. Ask to see your past through God’s eyes, through the lens of love.”

The next hurdle, I will add, is to actually feel gratitude for those moments. But how? How do we go beyond forgiveness to gratitude for what seems impossible to release?
Have there been instances in your life where, once you got through the challenge, you were actually grateful it happened? Grateful for the results?

In reference to going beyond forgiveness to gratitude, Jesus said in the Divine message:

“In order for you to forgive, you must first have something to forgive. That’s where the gratitude comes in, to be thankful for the experiences providing you the opportunity for forgiveness that results in the growth and enrichment and strengthening and enlightenment of your soul. Every single thing you experienced, no matter how you labeled it, was a life-lesson leading you to realize your greatness despite all that is playing out around you. Each lesson has a pearl within, a treasure. Each lesson leads you to the truth that you are not alone—you are one with the Power of the Universe.

“Yes, be thankful. Be thankful to learn that you are not your experiences. Be thankful that I do not judge you and that you should not judge yourself or others. Be thankful that I am with you always. Be thankful that you are truly special and that I love you. I, too, when on this earth, was misunderstood, tortured and crucified, and yet I forgave. For your own personal healing and joy, I ask the same of you. Forgive. Then go beyond forgiveness, to gratitude.”

From a personal note, this truly does work. I know. I took his ‘secret’ and claimed the pearls I didn’t know were there, and would never have known if not for the message. Reaching from the heart, and not the mind, I released a lot of the fear when I realized that even if I could go back to try to change what happened, when I really thought about it, I would have made the same decision because I chose what I believed was the right decision at the time. In working through this, you find peace with your past, you learn to love yourself, feel good about yourself.

It’s time to heal your past. There is no better moment than right now. Why delay? Wouldn’t you like to move from guilt into healing?  From regret to inner peace and love? You deserve nothing less. You are magnificent. All you have to do is know that, no matter your life experiences, that “you are magnificent” is your truth.

To repeat:

EVEN THOUGH THE PAST IS PART OF THE WHOLE, EACH BREATH IS A NEW BIRTH, A NEW BEGINNING. YOUR LIFE STARTS ANEW RIGHT THIS MOMENT.

What do you choose for you? Ongoing self-flagellation, or freedom? Isn’t it time to release what no longer serves you?

The answer is yes, because in truth, you are magnificent.

Love and God bless you,

Carolyne Cathey

“Divine Messages from Jesus”

divine-messages-book-cover-2-front“Divine Messages from Jesus, for a magnificent life” is the perfect gift for you and your friends. It’s long-lasting and non-fattening. 🙂

Available in Paperback and Kindle

Excerpt from the book:

“JESUS, MY SPIRITUAL mentor, called me to serve as a conduit through whom he may share eternal truths with you and the world. Your source for Divine messages will be unique to you; there are many angels, spiritual mentors and guides that, with your permission, will guide you into a co-creation of the wonder that is your life.

“These messages aren’t about being Christian or any particular religion, or any religion at all. They are about eternal truths that are always true, now and forever, Truths that can enrich and transform you and your life.

“Jesus assures me the eternal truth is the eternal truth no matter the source though which it comes. These are God-truths beyond any man-defined barriers and too-small boxes into which we laughably believe we can cram the Divine. Through the Divine messages you’ll learn that some of what we’ve been taught about Jesus isn’t necessarily the truth and that his teachings are often misrepresented. As he explains in the message ‘Don’t Throw Away the Gift Because You Don’t Like the Wrapping’, he is not the exception but the example, because, he said if what he taught and embodied was for only one person (him), then what was the point? The real point, he says, is that what he experienced we can all experience. In this book and in so many ways, he shows us how.

I asked Jesus/Holy Spirit what special message he wants to share with you about the chapter on Divine communication.

He said: “Remember, you are One with your Source. To be One means you are always connected.  To be connected means there is something that connects between you and the Divine, and it cannot be otherwise.  All it takes to receive this bounty so free flowing for you is for you to accept and be blessed by that Truth, for through that connection flows all of the love, goodness, power, joy, wisdom, guidance and peace into and through you if you will but allow it.”

For more information about this magnificent book